A few years ago, I went to a conference where a woman named,
Christa Black was featured as a songwriter.
Christa sang a song she wrote called, “God Loves Ugly” (Jordin Sparks
subsequently recorded this song as well) and there was not a dry female eye in
the auditorium, it struck such a strong chord in all of us. I suppose Christa got that reaction
everywhere she went because by the next year’s conference, Christa had authored
a book by the same name, which I bought and read.
In her book Christa
talks about her struggles with poor self-esteem issues which manifested itself mainly
through an eating disorder. Included in
the book are exercises to help the reader become free from any lies holding one
in bondage by keeping a person from becoming all that he/she was meant to be. She inspires me!
Anyway, after that second conference, my oldest son and one
of his best friends and I were on our drive home and they mentioned that they
hadn’t understood the reaction to Christa’s song. I asked them if they had ever felt ugly or fat
or even remotely unattractive in any way or if they ever compared themselves to
other friends, models or actors. The
answer was, “Only sometimes, but then I get over it”.
It was then that I
realized that most young men have never tortured themselves about their looks
the way young girls, or women do.
Immediately I wondered how much TIME I could’ve saved myself by just not
obsessing about the way I look! I
probably could’ve earned myself three Ph.D’s with all the time that I wasted!!!
I know it was an eye opening conversation for the young men
too because after I explained to them why girls/women act the way they do and
why they feel so insecure they kept saying things like: “Oh! That’s why they do that!”
Ladies, I propose we use our time for more useful things
than obsessing about our looks. So let’s
keep looking in that mirror and telling ourselves how beautiful we are, concentrate
on being the best we can be and then spend all that new found time becoming even
BETTER!!!
I've included a link to Christa Black as well as the audio to "God Loves Ugly":
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